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Want to keep you marriage balanced and blessed, not to mention hot and happy? Try Feng Shui.
We always recommend a consultation with a professional practitioner when possible, but we are fascinated by the new Feng Shu for Love app.
Feng Shui, an ancient Chinese approach to decorating (and life) that considers the flow of energy in your environment, can positively or negatively affect various areas of your life, including love and marriage. Depending on what furniture and accessories you have in each spot, you could be helping or hurting the corresponding part of your life.
Bad Feng Shui can cause relationship problems. Stop the problem before it starts. Maybe it’s your sofa is facing the wrong way or maybe your home is too cluttered with memories from the past. Feng Shui For Love co-authors, Healthy Home and Lifestyle experts Laura Forbes Carlin and Alison Forbes , offer the following decorating mistakes that could hurt your marriage:
Create A Romantic, Restful Bedroom: The bedroom is so important because it is the place where you both start and finish your day together, and where your bodies rest, your mind is restored and your immune systems replenish each night. It's also a place for romance. How you decorate the bedroom, its energy and what you choose to keep in the bedroom, will all have great impact on the quality of your sex life. Ideally the bedroom should serve only two purposes: rest and romance. Make sure your bedroom is set up for two (i.e. two bedside lamps, two nightstands). Make sure you each have a nice "view" from your side of the bed - either a window with a pretty view or art work that is in alignment with rest and romance. Make a comfortable/sensual bed: be sure to include some warm colors - cool colors or too much white also cools off the romance. Leave photographs of family and friends out of the bedroom - this does not support intimacy! Objects like treadmills, televisions and computers are distractions that remind us of exercise routines that need to be started or work that needs to be completed, preventing us from fully resting our minds and placing our attention on our partners. House your exercise equipment, home office, or anything else that is not conducive to sleep and romance, elsewhere.
Decorate Together: It is important that your home support and reflect each of you as individuals and as a couple. This is especially significant if one person is moving into the other's space, in which case you still need to create a "new" home, otherwise it is easy for resentment to build. If you are on the same page with style, then focus on anchoring your relationship in your home by displaying objects/art and photographs that capture your shared values and hopes for your future, such as happy pictures of the two of you or special items you bought together on a trip. Also think of arranging the space to support the relationship - make sure you have a comfortable place where you can read together, eat together, work, etc.
Create Harmony: Combining two different tastes can be a challenge. We suggest creating harmony in the home by looking for common threads in your two styles (i.e. perhaps your styles are different, but you like the same color). Also decide where you’re willing to compromise and where you’re not — perhaps you realize color is less important to you than comfort, so your partner picks the color of your sofa, but you choose the style. Or maybe how the furniture is arranged is more important to you than style, so you arrange the furniture and let your partner select the fabrics. Finally, when you simply can’t agree, choose your tie-breakers. For example, if you do all the cooking then perhaps you should have final say over the kitchen, and if your partner spends more time in your home office then perhaps you could let him have final say there. If possible, make sure you each have your own room, space, closet (or even drawer) where you can fully express yourself.
Set Intentions: Taking the time to write down your intentions for your relationship is very powerful. When you are clear about your goals, values and expectations, the Universe responds. You may choose to keep your intentions in a special place in your home (for example, in a beautiful box with a live orchid plant next to it). Each time you walk by, you will be reminded of your shared vision and therefore energize your dreams.
Feng Shui For Love ($3.99) has versions compatible with iPhone 3 and iPhone 4, as well as iPod Touch. Find more information here. The app is available from Apple’s App Store on iPhone and iPod touch.