Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie Named Family of the Year - Do We Really Want Them to Marry?
The Brangelina clan has been called People Magazine's "Family of the Year." Congratulations!
I give Angelina Jolie credit for shining a light and showing the world a true sense of interfaith, intercultural acceptance and unity. She's not only made it popular to adopt children from other countries who truly need love and family ... she's achieved the status of matriarch of the poster family for the new, multicultural, blended family.
She is not as much fun in interviews anymore because journalists like Diane Sawyer probe her about her marriage plans, or lackthereof, and she has to spend most of her time sitting there and denying them.
Back in the day, Angie gave spunky, spicey, ever-so-natural and revealing interviews, especially when discussing her sex life. I loved her raw admissions about how she handled her dating life. But as well all know, we all mellow out when we settle into a good realtionship.
If you recall, she was a single mom who adopted a little boy from Cambodia. And then a little girl from Africa. She was possibly secretly seeing Brad Pitt when she went to get baby number 2. She added one, tall, hunky, already-married movie star to the mix. He got a divorce, she got pregnant, and they had one "baby of their own" to seal the deal of family life. They remain unmarried. And sort of homeless, trotting around the globe, but they seem secure and the kids seem happy.
Just want to point out ... These days, many families are formulated on the bond between people who did not start as blood relatives and who hail from different cultures. I see it all the time in my wedding ministry, when people marry, and blend in their kids, their relatives, and their extended family members.
Overall, its very encouraging to see how they created their unique family. They have broken through many taboos, and have been an example of how love can transcend race, culture and religion.
They are also modeling love and family unity without marriage, and the ability to raise children in a loving environment without having to have a wedding. Even though I am all for marriage, for the right couples, I don't think it is necessary for everyone.
In there case it works and might be even better.
They have money, fame, their own real estate, production companies, access to the world, and legal custody of their adopted kids, so they really do not need to get married.
Their kids are loved, and taken care of financially and they can afford plenty of childcare so that when the babies are screaming and kids are fighting, they have a little space to walk out of the room and let a child care helper step in. We all need time out from caring for kids, especially more than one, so they are covered on that front. Having help with the children, and a chance for some alone time, will help them keep their sanity and their sex life. They are pretty much living like an old married couple with kids, so a ceremony and legal documents is not what will hold them together or make their life better ... unless one of them is a secret commitment phobic and is avoiding marriage (hmmm...). In that case, legal marriage might someday be the next step toward a more powerful commitment.
At the moment, they have the financial security to create the family life they choose and if they inspire a few civilians along the way, that's a good thing!








