Meditation for Stressed Out Brides
Wedding Goddess Wisdom
I got a call from a bride who has been planning a Las Vegas wedding. She feels it will be less stress and more fun than spending a year and a year’s salary planning a big event in New York. It is important to her to do it her way!
Not all of her NYC based family and friends are happy about her decision. They feel they will be missing out on the opportunity to see her marry … and that she will be missing out on having them at her wedding. The drama that arose around this issue completely stressed her out, almost defeating her reason for wanting to marry here.
I was glad to direct her to my new meditation for stressed out brides. Give a listen at:
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It helped her calm down and get some perspective so we could come up with some creative solutions.
After we talked for a while she realized she had many options, including telling her close friends and family to pack a bag and head west . But she also felt better knowing about all the high tech offering of most of the chapels here –such as online viewing of the wedding as it is in progress and being able to have her wedding photos posted for all to see.
What’s the moral of this story? In the world of wedding planning, there is always a “Debbie Downer” or two who will try to bring you down or sway you to their point of view. It doesn’t mean you have to change your plans to fit other people’s expectations.
There is a saying in 12 Steps that is fitting here: “What people think of you is none of YOUR business.” Essentially, it suggests that one cannot live happily if focused on what other people think of our choice. You have to focus on what is most important – your marriage … and your tons-of-fun, reasonably carefree Las Vegas Wedding.
You cannot please all of the people all of the time, so I strongly suggest brides and groom’s please them selves. Always do what is best for your union … and your sanity.
If you don’t feel like having all the folks from home here, make a wedding video, bring it home and throw a party for loved ones where you can show the video.
To read From Bridezilla to Wedding Goddess, an interview with me about my wedding work, fo to:
Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is an interfaith and non-denominational wedding officiant. She creates unique ceremonies for couples of all backgrounds and faiths, and is also widely recognized as a bridal stress expert. She is author of WEDDING GODDESS: A Divine Guide To Transforming Wedding Stress into Wedding Bliss (Perigee Books, May 2005). Visit Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway at WeddingGoddess.com.