Arielle Ford, author of The Soulmate Secret, says, "A soulmate is someone you can completely be yourself with. Someone with whom you share unconditional love and when you look into each others’ eyes, you know that you are home. A soulmate is your “safe place to land.”
Guest Blog By Arielle Ford
As someone who teaches others how to manifest their soulmates, and who has been so blessed with the love of my own soulmate, I decided it was time to shine a light on the extraordinary benefits of living with your soulmate as a way to encourage others. Soulmate love heals people while it stamps out loneliness and brings so much more happiness.
Soulmate couples have a secret they rarely speak about: they feel fortunate to no longer have to search for true love because they are living it every day. They realize how blessed they are to be spending their days in the embrace of their best friend, lover, and sacred partner. Rather than brag, or shout it from the rooftops, they quietly relish their relationship and give thanks, from a deep place of gratitude, that they have another day to spend together.
How do I know this? During the past thirteen blissful years with my soulmate, Brian, we often talk about how blessed we are to be together and experience a relationship that exceeds our wildest dreams. I also began quietly asking the other soulmate couples we know what life is like for them.
The answers I’ve heard are remarkably similar. In whispered and hushed tones, they have shared with me the wonders and beauty of their marriages. Why have we been whispering? For two reasons: we are in awe of the sacredness of the union and because as my friend Monte Farber (co-author of The Soulmate Path) says “it’s not polite to rub in other people’s faces how wonderful life can be when you are sharing it with your soulmate.”
Soulmate relationships can be compelling, intense, loving communions that have a divine quality to them. They are about connecting on a deep “soul” level as much as every other dimension of human interaction. The soulmate couples we’ve met choose to live with honesty, transparency, deeper love, devotion, openness, vulnerability and trust. My husband, Brian Hilliard, explains it this way: “In a soulmate relationship one plus one does not equal two, it equals eleven. The love generated in this equation is a gift to the soulmate couple and to the world at large.”
“The level of trust between soulmates is profound-- and being able to trust another being on so many levels makes life so much easier. You soulmate will mirror your best parts and your shadow self, giving you a chance to heal,” explains Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, author of Your Interfaith Wedding.
This is why the world needs soulmate couples to find each other—as many as possible, and as soon as possible. It is a surefire way to fill our planet with more love.
I asked some soulmates I know to share their bliss:
“Living with your best friend and lover, the one who loves you for who you are, is a wonderful gift. They believe in you even when you can’t see it yourself. We let go of fears, doubts and challenges more quickly because we know we are totally loved.”
--Otto & Susie Collins, authors of Magic Relationship Words
“I am experiencing a “full contentment” I have never known. A relationship such as this does not happen TO someone, it happens WITH someone who is truly willing to cross the terror barrier of self-disclosure again and again to find that place of true connection.”
--Mary Morrissey, author of Building Your Field of Dreams
“I love knowing my husband/soulmate is perfect for me and that he feels the same way. I appreciate how we can both completely be ourselves with no need to pretend to be something we are not.”
--Peggy McColl, author of Your Destiny Switch
“Being in our soulmate relationship nourishes us and allows us to tell the truth all the way out loud to someone else who is as interested and committed to the truth!”
--David and Maryanne Comaroto-Raynal, Author of Hindsight (Maryanne’s latest book) and host of The Power of WE
“There is a total and utter richness that exists in being with ones’ soulmate. It is utopia.”
“Being a soulmate couple is a divine dance of both witnessing and being witnessed, celebrating and being celebrated. It's that deep spiritual connection, unwavering acceptance and knowing that someone is always there to cover your back and will be with you no matter how bad a day you're having.”
--Jay Vogt and Stephanie Bennett Vogt, author of Your Spacious Self: Clear Your Clutter and Discover Who You Are
“Even when Vic and I are apart, I am totally relaxed in knowing that his love and devotion surround me and protect me. That kinds of love instills great confidence and it truly is a blessing."
-Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, wedding officiant and author of Your Interfaith Wedding
“Everything tastes better when you share it with your soulmate.”
“The soulmate relationship is both the most gratifying and the most challenging of all relationships. It's all good and for the highest good. It's the evolution of the individual and collective soul of lovers once separated and now united. It's cosmic completion!
--Rev. Victor Fuhrman, co-author of Pet Prayers and Blessings
Some people fear that their day will never come, and that they will not be worthy of soulmate love. Claire Zammit, co-creator of the Calling In The One online course, explained it this way. “I always thought I was too much of this or not enough of that, but when I met my soulmate I realized I was just right for the person I was destined to be with. It's amazing to be loved and appreciated so deeply just for being who you authentically are!”
Are soulmate relationships always blissful? No, of course not. Soulmates have work to do in the world and it begins in their own relationships. “Your ‘Twin Flame’ will not only bring you to new heights of ecstasy but also push every one of your buttons and even some you never knew you had!,” adds Rev. Fuhrman. Like all relationships, soulmate unions require time, energy, and attention. As Otto and Susie Collins so eloquently put it, “they require conscious effort to keep the relationship vibrant, alive and juicy.”
Despite the occasional upset, argument or breakdown, soulmates are committed to working through the issues with honesty and transparency, knowing that the foundation for their love is strong enough to weather the storm. Perhaps Stephanie Bennett Vogt explains it best, “Having a soulmate is a beautiful dance towards wholeness if you’re willing to allow and learn from the inevitable messy bumps that go with the territory of being in a relationship.”
Arielle is the author of seven books including the international bestselling The Soulmate Secret: How To Manifest The Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction. Learn more about Arielle at www.arielleford.com and http://soulmatesecretbook.com
Arielle along with Claire Zammit, co-creator of the acclaimed Calling in “The One” telecourse will host a free online teleseries called “The Ultimate Soulmate Summit” to help 100,000 people magnetize their Soulmate next Valentine’s Day! Twenty-five of the world’s leading relationship experts including Dr. Helen Fisher, John Gray, Drs. Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks, Alison Armstrong, Debbie Ford, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Christian Carter, and others will lead participants through the process of attracting a Soulmate over the 10 days of the summit. www.ultimatesoulmatesummit.com.
Photos: Arielle Ford and her soulmate/hubby Brian Hilliard, and image of The Soulmate Secret, now available in paperback.